If I tell you what I am about to tell you, you have to promise to keep it a secret. You can’t tell anybody! If I find out you told someone, I’m gonna…I’m gonna…well, you just wait and see what I’m gonna do…
Okay, here goes. I cry at movies.
Yep, go ahead, get all your giggles out now, because in a moment it will no longer be tolerable. I, a 29 year old man, cry at movies. As you can see, it’s not something I’m proud of. I wouldn’t be so uptight about it, except that I cry at movies that my wife doesn’t even cry at. We watched The Blind Side the other night. I cried… And not because Sandra Bullock looks good as a blond either! But because it was such a heartwarming story. My wife, though… Dry as a desert. Not a single tear. She tries to make me feel better by telling me that she just doesn’t cry at movies, but I would have to humbly remind her that when we were dating we went and saw Pearl Harbor in the theater, and afterward she cried like a baby out in the lobby. That’s actually a pretty funny story – we were with her parents, and her dad saw someone he knew, but we were all there trying to help her stop crying. It was awesome.
But back to me. I know that it’s not really culturally acceptable to be such a lactimally prolific male. I looked online for what people thought about it, and I came across this site, where I found the following poll results when people were asked “When is it ok for a man to cry?”
I know it’s kind of hard to see, but if you really scrunch up your eyes and look close, you can see that only 12.22% of people think it is acceptable for a man to cry during a sad movie. Of course, I’m not sure I can trust a poll where more people think it is acceptable for a man to cry when he cuts himself shaving (5.56%) than do that think it’s acceptable for a man to cry when he has a gunshot or stab wound (2.22%). And a gunshot wound is only moderate pain? Have they ever been shot? I haven’t, but I did get punched in the eye once, and that was pretty severe, so I think anything that penetrates my dermal tissue should fall under extreme pain. I’m just saying…
When I’m watching something sad – it doesn’t have to be sad, even the Soup Nazi episode from Seinfeld will do the trick – I try to remind myself that even Jesus cried (Luke 19:41; John 11:35). Peter wept “bitterly” when Jesus pointed out that he had denied him 3 times (Matthew 26:75). And John, the beloved disciple, wept and wept (twice means he did more than just tear up) when no one was found who was worthy to open the scroll or even look inside it in his end-times vision (Revelation 5:4). My Bible study right now is over Joseph, and he wept in private when he was moved by the sight of his younger brother (Genesis 43:30). All these men were manly men of the Bible, and they all cried at some point or another. So I don’t think it’s so bad that I cried when Simba’s dad died on The Lion King, or that I sobbed uncontrollably while rolling around on the floor and screaming “Why, oh why? It’s just not fair!!!” after Macaulay Culkin’s character died in My Girl.
So what do you think? Is it acceptable for a man to cry at a sad movie or TV show?